Feeling broody when you’re not ready for children

Disclaimer: This post was written for The Growing Up Guide

 

Over a year ago, one of my close friends gave birth to a lovely baby boy. Before I gave him a cuddle, the idea of giving birth terrified me.

Of course, I knew I wanted children in years to come but my friend was 19 and I know of girls who were even younger than that when they became mothers!

Being a young mum is completely ok and one of our lovely contributors has covered that here.

Some women aspire to be a young mother. But having a baby was something that rarely crossed my mind. I’m now 22 years old, which is pretty young. If I were to have a baby, I would fall into the ‘young mum’ category and honestly, I’d be totally ok with that.

If my boyfriend and family are reading this – DON’T PANIC. The reason I’m writing this is that I know I’m not ready to have children, I’m years off yet! But, feeling broody is an emotion I’ve only recently felt and I’m still trying to learn how to control it.

Currently, if I’m close to a cute baby, my heart feels all warm and fuzzy. Sometimes I even tear up a little!

Feeling broody is actually quite frustrating when you know that having children is out of the question for a few years.

I’ve recently decided that I would make a wonderful mum and I can now say, the idea of childbirth no longer fills me with dread and fear but more excitement, happiness and love.

I’m going to embrace the fact that I’m a broody 22-year-old who isn’t necessarily ready to have babies, but will happily wander around the kids’ section of shops and coo over the adorable little outfits and shoes.

Just because you feel broody, does not mean you’re ready for children.

Babies are not dolls, you are responsible for a little life. Ultimately, being financially stable as well as mentally and physically prepared if you are planning a family is important.

I understand that accidents happen and unexpected pregnancies happen. There are many people and places that will and can support you and help you make the best decision for the child.

But “I’m feeling broody” is not a good enough excuse to bring a child into the world.

You shouldn’t feel pressured to have a baby either just because your friends are getting pregnant or you have a mother-in-law asking when she’s going to have grandkids.

Parenthood isn’t for everyone and although they say nobody is ever really ready to be a parent, you’ll know within you when the time is right.

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